How Might We Discover Our Purpose?

Back in December of 2015, I listened to episode 263 of Lewis Howes’, “School of Greatness” podcast. In this particular episode, Lewis sits down with Brad Lomenick, author of “The Catalyst Leader” to discuss how to go about mastering confidence, humility, and leadership. A little less than halfway through the podcast (14:42), Lewis poses the following question to Brad, “How might we go about discovering our own unique purpose?”

Here is some very helpful insight in regards to helping us discover, identify, and pursue our own unique purpose in life:

1. Identity:

Our identity is who we are. It consists of all of the things which we cannot change. For example, we cannot change our ethnic background, our family structure, or when and where we were born.

(Ex: Hello, my name is Aquaus Kelley and I am of African-American descent. I am from Staten Island, NY and I graduated from Rutgers University with a degree in Communication).

2. Calling: 

Our calling is what we are meant to do. It is why we are here on this planet. It is our purpose or social mission. In Victor E. Frankl’s book, “A Man’s Search For Meaning” he calls this our “Will to Meaning” (Pg. 99). If we are unaware as to what our purpose may be, we may want to start with discovering our own interests and passions.

(Ex: My calling is to lead people towards becoming the best versions of themselves in an effort to set them up for personal success. Overall, my social mission is to use my influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership).

3. Assignment:

Our assignment is our current day to day role or vocation. Ideally, this should align with our calling. When our assignment does not align with our calling, it may cause Noögenic neuroses. According to Dr. Frankl, noögenic neuroses is the cause of frustration due to the misalignment of our calling (purpose) and our assignment (vocation). 

(Ex: My current assignment is that of a brand strategist, educator, and music publisher. I curate content and develop brand strategy through A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, I work with middle school students in the field of education, and I specialize in identifying talent and creating opportunities for emerging artists as a music publisher).

Think about it. How do we feel when we are in a profession that does not allow our own purpose to flourish? Once we are able to discover, identify, and pursue our calling, we are then better equipped to select and manage which assignments are best for our own ultimate success!

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

12 Things We Learned From Tai Lopez on Snapchat

This morning I watched this video and I just couldn’t turn it off. In fact…I watched it 4 times. I personally find it to be very inspiring. Along with Lewis Howes and many others, Tai Lopez is at the top of my list of people I would love to meet soon!

Here are 12 Things We Learned From Tai Lopez on Snapchat:

  1. Short memory is the key to winning. You will lose but then you will forget about it.
  2. Rest more than you train.
  3. Books are the GPS for life.
  4. Master the fundamentals: Understand the language of money, networking with people, reading people, creating products, raising capital, distribution, marketing, and promotion.
  5. Don’t listen to the naysayers.
  6. Strategize and sit in a chair for at least 15 mins a day.
  7. If something you are doing is not working, move to an alternate path.
  8. Create momentum to create opportunities.
  9. Watch your downsides.
  10. Balance your discipline with enjoyment.
  11. Differentiate between insecurities around areas you can alter and ones you cannot. You can’t change your height but with hard work you can change your weight. Forget what you can’t change and focus on what you can change.
  12. Spend money and invest in books.

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

7 Days of Wisdom (Episode 10)

7 Days of Wisdom is an original weekly video series presented by A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group and hosted by Aquaus Kelley. Our mission is to foster growth and create a community of success and significance. Through sharing meaningful advice, knowledge, and insight gathered throughout our daily experiences, we aim to empower, encourage, and inspire our community to achieve their most passionate aspirations.

In This Weeks Episode We Discuss:

  1. Quotes of The Week (1:00)

This Weeks Resources Include:

  1. 8 Mindset Principles of Champions: Aubrey Marcus (http://aloversambition.com)
  2. Harry’s Last Lecture at Stanford: Oprah (http://aloversambition.com)

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

8 Mindset Principles of Champions

Thursday morning I made time to check out Lewis Howes’ latest interview with Aubrey Marcus who shared his 8 Mindset Principles of Champions. Aubrey also mentioned that “Rituals create results.” I’m grateful to have learned a few new insights from this podcast and I’m sure you will too. Let’s keep shining light on the world! #‎SchoolOfGreatness‬

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

7 Days of Wisdom (Episode 6)

7 Days of Wisdom is an original weekly video series presented by A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group and hosted by Aquaus Kelley. Our mission is to foster growth and create a community of success and significance. Through sharing meaningful advice, knowledge, and insight gathered throughout our daily experiences, we aim to empower, encourage, and inspire our community to achieve their most passionate aspirations.

In This Weeks Episode We Discuss:

  1. Synchronicity (1:13)
  2. Identity, Calling, and Assignment (8:00)
  3. Faith, Family, Friends (14:30)
  4. Quotes of The Week (17:09)

This Weeks Resources Include:

  1. Experiences We Love: Synchronicity
  2. Instant Wealth Wake Up Rich
  3. How Might We Discover Our Purpose

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies such as Cornerstone Agency, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

7 Days of Wisdom (Episode 4)

7 Days of Wisdom is an original weekly video series presented by A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group and hosted by Aquaus Kelley. Our mission is to foster growth and create a community of success and significance. Through sharing meaningful advice, knowledge, and insight gathered throughout our daily experiences, we aim to empower, encourage, and inspire our community to achieve their most passionate aspirations.

In This Weeks Episode We Discuss:

  1. Belief + Faith (4:50)
  2. Readiness (6:55)
  3. Mentorship (8:56)
  4. Quotes of The Week (11:34)

This Weeks Resources Include:

  1. 30 Days To a More Powerful Vocabulary by Dr. Wilfred Funk & Norman Lewis (Book)
  2. The School of Greatness by Lewis Howes (Book)
  3. Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson, M.D. (Book)

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies such as Cornerstone Agency, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

7 Days of Wisdom (Episode 2)

7 Days of Wisdom is an original weekly video series presented by A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group and hosted by Aquaus Kelley. Our mission is to foster growth and create a community of success and significance. Through sharing meaningful advice, knowledge, and insight gathered throughout our daily experiences, we aim to empower, encourage, and inspire our community to achieve their most passionate aspirations.

In This Weeks Episode We Discuss:

  1. Creating Your Vision (1:24)
  2. Planning and Preparation (3:30)
  3. Overcoming Failure (5:30)

This Weeks Resources Include:

Lewis Howes, “The School of Greatness” (Book)
Kendrick Lamar, “Poe Man’s Dream” (Song)

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies such as Cornerstone Agency, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

Fascinate The World Around You!

For both young and experienced entrepreneurs, gaining a competitive advantage in today’s crowded and distracted marketplace can at times seem extremely daunting. We all know how difficult it can be to keep up with the competition. What if you were told that your best competitive advantage is to be more of…who you already are?

In an interview with Lewis Howes on his, “School of Greatness” podcast, New York Times bestselling author, Sally Hogshead shares exactly how she learned how to separate herself from the competition at a very young age. Here are 3 ways in which she will help you to gain your competitive advantage and fascinate the world around you.

Highlight Your Differences

The greatest value that you can add to the world is to become more of yourself. In doing so, it’s important to understand what makes you different. You don’t have to be better, you have to be different. Better is incredibly expensive and exhausting. Different is better than better. When you can identify when you are at your best, you can do more to leverage your unique talents and abilities. In other words, you don’t have to change who you are, you have to become more of who you are. It’s not only important to focus on your strengths, it’s also important to highlight your differences.

When you become more of who you are, it becomes easy for you to find your own lane and become confident, empowered, and inspired at what you do and your relationship with others. Here’s a fun fact: when you feel confident, your mouth produces more saliva. Your listener unconsciously hears this and instills more confidence in you because your communication is helping to put them at ease. As a result, the more confident  you become in yourself, the more others instill confidence in you. This will allow you to grow both personally and professionally throughout your career.

Find Your Flow

When you’re in the flow, your listener gets in the flow and they become fascinated. They begin to focus on you and this is where rapid rapport is built. When you know when the world sees you at your best, it becomes easy to deliver that over and over again. This will enable you to find the opportunities that allow you to show up in the best possible way and fascinate your audience, clients, and consumers. As leaders, if we can create ways to fascinate our employees, they will become far more engaged, productive, loyal, motivated, excited, and happy to come into work. If we can fascinate our clients, they may be willing to pay up to 4 times more for a product or service.

The average attention span today is only about 9 seconds. If you can fascinate your prospect in 9 seconds, you can gain a huge competitive advantage. When Sally learned how to harness the first 9 seconds and create an instant emotional connection with her client base, her speaking fee went from $3,000 to $35,000 a keynote within 2 years. First impressions lead to the long-term relationship. The key part of first impressions is about being so authentic and compelling that you can build the gateway to the rest of the relationship. The greatest gift that you can give to someone is to show them what makes them valuable.

Specialize In Extraordinary

When you understand how people see you at your best, you don’t have to try to be all things to all people. Instead, focus on the areas that are going to be rich and ripe with growth opportunities for you and your business. High performers standout from average performers because they have a specialty. They don’t try to be all things to all people. They hone in and double down on what they do naturally and exceptionally well.

The number one way for us to out do our competition without outspending them, is to find ways to fascinate our clients and consumers on an emotionally engaging level. People don’t hire you because you’re balanced, they hire you because you are extraordinary in some specific way. If you can describe yourself in 3 adjectives, the right kind of client is going to be instantly attracted to those qualities in which you are providing. Sally’s three words are, “Out of the box”, “Social”, and “Energizing”. My 3 adjectives are “Clever”, “Unassuming”, and “Independent”. These are all very fitting considering my archetype is “The Secret Weapon” and my primary and secondary triggers are “Mystique” and “Innovation”.

What Is Your Archetype?

If you like what you have read so far, head on over to howtofascinate.com/you and use the assessment code “schoolofgreatness” for your FREE Fascination Advantage Assessment. We would love to hear what your archetype is. Leave a comment below and let us know!

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Creative Consultant, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies such as Cornerstone Agency, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and consumers. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe.