Why Fall In Love With Our Fears?

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Photo via Lewis Howes.

When we listened to the 478th episode of Lewis Howes’ “School of Greatness” podcast earlier this morning with Kyle Cease, we were completely blown away with the amount of valuable insight we gained in just 1 hour and 28 minutes. With a new book slated to release on Tuesday May 2, 2017 entitled, “I Hope I Screw This Up”, Kyle made time to sit down with Lewis and dive deep into the topics of creativity, fear, happiness, and love.

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Photo via Kyle Cease.

Fall In Love With Not Knowing!

Do our goals allow us to attain our happiness or does our happiness allow us to attain our goals? We often live in an illusion that, “When something happens, I’ll be happy” says Kyle. However, when we think like this, what we are actually saying is, “We are in lack without having whatever it is we feel will make us happy.” As a result, we become attached to the people and things we think we want and thus end up losing.

On the contrary, when we love us enough, we will attract all of which we deem to be desirable. When we try less, we allow more. When we’re happy, great things happen. We don’t always have to know how to do something or when to do it. When we fall in love with not knowing, we move freely from our heart and create our own definition of perfection.

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Photo via Lewis Howes.

Fall In Love With Our Fears!

“Our fear isn’t of what it is we are about to do. Our fear is of choosing what it is we are about to do” says Kyle. When we step into an opportunity, our fear goes away. Whenever we’re scared to let go of something, the only reason is because our mind can measure what we will lose yet cannot see what we will gain. The more excited we become, the more we can achieve. “When we’re in a good mood, we can make anything work” says Kyle.

In addition, Kyle also mentions, “Our fear doesn’t bother us, it’s the resistance to our fear that does. Everything that we are scared of losing is going to have to be taken away from us to make room for who we really are. The universe takes from us everything that we are scared we are going to lose to show us that we are enough without it. If we have to justify why we are keeping something, we have to let go of it.”

In addition to the the full interview with Kyle Cease and Lewis Howes above, below are our favorite highlights and takeaways:

  • When we think that when something happens we’ll be happy, we’re actually saying that we are in lack without that thing. (11:44)
  • We can’t see how much money we’re losing by staying in a job we hate. (20:20)
  • Whenever we’re scared to let go of something, the only reason is because our mind can measure what we will lose yet cannot see what we will gain. (22:29)
  • The universe takes from us everything that we are scared we are going to lose to show us that we are enough without it. (30:22)
  • No one has ever broken our heart but they have broken our expectations. By breaking our expectations, they helped us to become closer to our heart. (33:36)
  • Disconnect from the collective consciousness of the victim mentality of the world. (39:08)
  • If we have to justify why we are keeping something, we have to let go of it. (45:47)
  • We pick and choose our signs sometimes to justify why we aren’t leaping. (1:04:59)
  • Being lost makes space for new innovation. (1:09:55)
  • When we’re free, we’ll have clarity. (1:10:26)

Lastly, let’s ask ourselves, “What lessons can we learn from our lows? What’s trying to emerge from what we fear of letting go? Feel free to mention and tag us on social. We would love to hear your answers!

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A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group is a brand development agency that specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. With an emphasis on culture and lifestyle, the primary focus of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group is to help companies adapt to culture and build value between brands and their consumers centered around love. Our social mission is to leverage the influence of popular culture to create social change and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership. We are driven by AMBITION, fueled by PASSION, inspired by INNOVATION, and suckers for STRATEGY!

We Appreciate: Lewis Howes

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When I spoke to my good friend Thomas Johnson Jr. on our weekly accountability call, we spoke about how epic it was for Lewis Howes to interview one of the greatest interviewers of our time, Larry King. I also shared with Thomas the backstory of how I initially came across Lewis and lewishowes.com, through googling one of my favorite quotes, “Live legendary, leave a legacy.”

Thomas encouraged me to make time to appreciate Lewis via social media for all that he has done for us in regards to sharing his greatness with the world and inspiring others to live the lives of their dreams. We appreciate you brother! May all of your success lead you to achieving your future goals of interviewing Will Smith, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, and Oprah Winfrey. It’s all going to happen very soon. We’re happy to be a part of your tribe and join you for the ride! #ALOVERSAmbition #SchoolOfGreatness

Here’s the video of Lewis’ entire interview with Larry King:

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Cultural Curator, and Social Storyteller. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

How Might We Close Our Creative Gap?

When Chase Jarvis appeared as a guest on Lewis Howes’, “School of Greatness” podcast, Chase referenced the work of Ira Glass and the concept of closing our “Creative gap.” Who is Ira Glass I immediately asked? Because I am constantly curious, I decided to look into his work. Ira Glass happens to be a radio personality as well as the host and producer of, “This American Life.” One of the first videos that I decided to check out is a video that I came across on Vimeo entitled, “The Gap.”

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The Gap is shot by visual storyteller, Daniel Sax and was inspired by David Shiyang Liu who created his own version back in June of 2011. Both of these videos were created using the audio from Ira’s interview with Current TV. In his interview, Ira discusses the creative process behind the art of storytelling.

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What interests me the most about Ira’s piece on storytelling is that it addresses the creative process throughout all of it’s stages. For example, when we initially begin to create, what we actually create rarely yields a good product in the beginning. However, as a beginner at anything in life, we usually have a particular taste or vision that we’re looking to fulfill. The space between our ideal taste and the fulfillment of that taste is what Ira calls, “The Gap.”

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When it comes to closing our creative gap, it requires a few key components. The one major and most important component entails not quitting. Our creative process can certainly take a while. It may take 5 years, 10 years, or possibly even 20 years before we begin to see the fruits of our labor. Despite this, we must get over the phase and possibility of creative disappointment. It will happen. The good news is however, it will not last forever.

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Creative disappointment is totally normal. The most important thing that we can do is produce a large volume of work. “It’s only by going through a large volume of work that we’re actually able to catch up and close the gap” says Ira. “When this happens, the work that we create will be as good as our ambitions.” Until we achieve our ambitions, and even when we achieve our ambitions, we must keep fighting!

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Cultural Curator, and Educator. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Behind The Hustle, Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about bridging the gap and building value between brands, communities, and culture. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

7 Days of Wisdom (Episode 27)

7 Days of Wisdom is an original weekly video series presented by A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group and hosted by Aquaus Kelley. Our mission is to foster growth and create a community of success and significance. Through sharing meaningful advice, knowledge, and insight gathered throughout our daily experiences, we aim to empower, encourage, and inspire our community to achieve their most passionate aspirations.

In This Weeks Episode We Discuss:

  1. The Creative Gap (0:13)
  2. Quotes of the Week (13:20)

This Weeks Resources Include:

  1. Closing Our Creative Gap: Chase Jarvis

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

Closing Our Creative Gap: Chase Jarvis

In an interview on Episode 321 of Lewis Howes’, “School of Greatness” podcast, the award-winning director and photographer, Chase Jarvis talks about the importance of visualizing success for everything that he does. In reference to the work of Ira Glass, Chase mentions, “When we are first starting out on something, what we see in our mind and what we are actually able to create is our creative gap. Through repetition, practice, skill, self-talk, and visualization, our goal should be to close the gap between what we envision and what we will someday produce.” Ultimately, the practice of acknowledging our creative gap and moving towards closing our creative gap is what separates those who achieve their ambitions, dreams, and goals from those who unfortunately do not.

When Chase talks about closing in on his creative gap, he mentions that he believes he can make the things that he sees in his mind. This is because he has developed the experience, resources, and tools that have taken him years to build upon. As Malcolm Gladwell denotes in one of his best-selling books, “Outliers,” it often takes close to a decade or longer before we really begin to zero in on our life-long creative gap(s).

How Can We Apply This Method To Our Life?

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Are you one of those people who feel as though you are just not a creative person? Guess what…our personal belief is that we were all created therefore we are all creative. We can all create a vision. Our lives are a creative process. As Gary Vaynerchuk would say, we can all reverse engineer our ideal outcome. If our creative gap is unfulfilled, most likely we will be unfulfilled! Think about the impact this has on our careers, lives, and relationships. This causes us to think, what is the correlation between lacking creative fulfillment and living an unsatisfied life? How might our creative gap affect our economic, educational, and social gaps? This may serve as a great hypothesis for a research study. Stay tuned, we’ll keep you posted!

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

3 Ways To Get Unstuck: Chase Jarvis

When Lewis Howes recently interviewed Chase Jarvis on Episode 321 of his “School of Greatness” podcast, they discussed many topics. Some of what they discussed include the topics of creativity and the art of entrepreneurship. In particular, they also discussed what it takes to get unstuck and overcome creative blocks. “When it comes time to overcoming our creative blocks, it’s important that we have many solutions” says Chase. We at A Lovers Ambition couldn’t agree more. Facilitating creative ideas requires a certain type of freedom and headspace that as Chase mentions, “Requires us to have a variety of tools in our toolkit.”

Thanks to Lewis Howes, here are Chase Jarvis’ 3 Ways To Get “Unstuck:”

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1. Have Many Solutions

As creative people, it’s important that we learn how to extend our artistic expression across various mediums. For example, if we are a writer, we may want to have an essay, a journal, a novel, some poetry, and a short story. Having multiple activities to tap into within the same main sphere of artistic expression allows us to stay fresh and shift gears from one project to another when necessary.

According to a study read by Chase, he mentions that the ideal number of creative projects to have for a designer is five. It’s important to keep in mind that there are certainly different levels of attention, development, and intensity required for each project. However, if we’re stuck on one thing, having a few options allows us to shift gears and work on something else.

2. Get Away

Sometimes walking away from something allows us to come back with a fresh state of mind and a fresh set of eyes. At times, this may require going to bed. At other times, this may entail seeking adventure, exploration, and discovery. As author Charlie Hoehn would say, “Play It Away.” One of the best strategies to relieve anxiety and stress is to get outside and let it all go. We must ask ourselves, what gives us joy? Is it playing frisbee, going for a walk, people watching, etc? The choice is ours!

3. Tap Into Our Creative Community

“Whether we have mentors, friends, business partners, or teams, we always need people to exchange ideas with” says Chase. Through communicating with other people and sharing ideas and perspectives, we are able to see the world from a different point of view. What better people to reach out to and seek inspiration from than our own creative community? Keep in mind, this doesn’t have to be limited to the people we know in person. Why not seek out some “Virtual Mentors?” There are so many creative and inspiring thought leaders across each and every industry who are delivering highly valuable content on a daily basis. As we like to say, “Find the leaders, learn from the leaders, become the leaders.”

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

Overcoming Obstacles: Tim Storey

This morning I checked out Lewis Howes’ most recent interview on his “School of Greatness” podcast with Tim Storey. Tim had a lot of insight to share on the following topics in regards to how we can both face and overcome our most difficult obstacles in life.

1. Victimization:

Tim mentions, “We have become a nation of victims. We have learned these “victim” stories that have worked for us. It’s so easier to fix the blame than to fix the problem. Our life will be a lot better when we take responsibility for our actions, even if it’s super painful.”

2. Stoping, Looking, Listening:

It’s important that we prepare ourselves to absorb life at it’s fullest. This requires us to be in the moment. We need to stop what we are doing, look at where we are, and listen to our surroundings. We must be fully present, fully living, and fully alive.

3. Valuing Our Dreams:

“Without a dream, we are not living” says Tim. “Dreams are in us, they are in our DNA. When we dial into the real us, we are all dreamers.” Dreaming allows us to raise our ceiling in regards to reaching our highest potential.

#QuotesWeLove:

“When we feed our faith, we starve our doubt.” – Tim Storey

“There is a difference between a good idea and a God idea.” – Tim Storey

“Divorce is divided force.” – Tim Storey

“We may not be what we want to be but thank God we are not what we use to be.” – Tim Storey

“Greatness is to manifest an utmost life.” – Tim Storey

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

How Might We Discover Our Purpose?

Back in December of 2015, I listened to episode 263 of Lewis Howes’, “School of Greatness” podcast. In this particular episode, Lewis sits down with Brad Lomenick, author of “The Catalyst Leader” to discuss how to go about mastering confidence, humility, and leadership. A little less than halfway through the podcast (14:42), Lewis poses the following question to Brad, “How might we go about discovering our own unique purpose?”

Here is some very helpful insight in regards to helping us discover, identify, and pursue our own unique purpose in life:

1. Identity:

Our identity is who we are. It consists of all of the things which we cannot change. For example, we cannot change our ethnic background, our family structure, or when and where we were born.

(Ex: Hello, my name is Aquaus Kelley and I am of African-American descent. I am from Staten Island, NY and I graduated from Rutgers University with a degree in Communication).

2. Calling: 

Our calling is what we are meant to do. It is why we are here on this planet. It is our purpose or social mission. In Victor E. Frankl’s book, “A Man’s Search For Meaning” he calls this our “Will to Meaning” (Pg. 99). If we are unaware as to what our purpose may be, we may want to start with discovering our own interests and passions.

(Ex: My calling is to lead people towards becoming the best versions of themselves in an effort to set them up for personal success. Overall, my social mission is to use my influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership).

3. Assignment:

Our assignment is our current day to day role or vocation. Ideally, this should align with our calling. When our assignment does not align with our calling, it may cause Noögenic neuroses. According to Dr. Frankl, noögenic neuroses is the cause of frustration due to the misalignment of our calling (purpose) and our assignment (vocation). 

(Ex: My current assignment is that of a brand strategist, educator, and music publisher. I curate content and develop brand strategy through A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, I work with middle school students in the field of education, and I specialize in identifying talent and creating opportunities for emerging artists as a music publisher).

Think about it. How do we feel when we are in a profession that does not allow our own purpose to flourish? Once we are able to discover, identify, and pursue our calling, we are then better equipped to select and manage which assignments are best for our own ultimate success!

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

8 Mindset Principles of Champions

Thursday morning I made time to check out Lewis Howes’ latest interview with Aubrey Marcus who shared his 8 Mindset Principles of Champions. Aubrey also mentioned that “Rituals create results.” I’m grateful to have learned a few new insights from this podcast and I’m sure you will too. Let’s keep shining light on the world! #‎SchoolOfGreatness‬

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

7 Days of Wisdom (Episode 2)

7 Days of Wisdom is an original weekly video series presented by A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group and hosted by Aquaus Kelley. Our mission is to foster growth and create a community of success and significance. Through sharing meaningful advice, knowledge, and insight gathered throughout our daily experiences, we aim to empower, encourage, and inspire our community to achieve their most passionate aspirations.

In This Weeks Episode We Discuss:

  1. Creating Your Vision (1:24)
  2. Planning and Preparation (3:30)
  3. Overcoming Failure (5:30)

This Weeks Resources Include:

Lewis Howes, “The School of Greatness” (Book)
Kendrick Lamar, “Poe Man’s Dream” (Song)

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies such as Cornerstone Agency, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.