Why Fall In Love With Our Fears?

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When we listened to the 478th episode of Lewis Howes’ “School of Greatness” podcast earlier this morning with Kyle Cease, we were completely blown away with the amount of valuable insight we gained in just 1 hour and 28 minutes. With a new book slated to release on Tuesday May 2, 2017 entitled, “I Hope I Screw This Up”, Kyle made time to sit down with Lewis and dive deep into the topics of creativity, fear, happiness, and love.

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Photo via Kyle Cease.

Fall In Love With Not Knowing!

Do our goals allow us to attain our happiness or does our happiness allow us to attain our goals? We often live in an illusion that, “When something happens, I’ll be happy” says Kyle. However, when we think like this, what we are actually saying is, “We are in lack without having whatever it is we feel will make us happy.” As a result, we become attached to the people and things we think we want and thus end up losing.

On the contrary, when we love us enough, we will attract all of which we deem to be desirable. When we try less, we allow more. When we’re happy, great things happen. We don’t always have to know how to do something or when to do it. When we fall in love with not knowing, we move freely from our heart and create our own definition of perfection.

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Photo via Lewis Howes.

Fall In Love With Our Fears!

“Our fear isn’t of what it is we are about to do. Our fear is of choosing what it is we are about to do” says Kyle. When we step into an opportunity, our fear goes away. Whenever we’re scared to let go of something, the only reason is because our mind can measure what we will lose yet cannot see what we will gain. The more excited we become, the more we can achieve. “When we’re in a good mood, we can make anything work” says Kyle.

In addition, Kyle also mentions, “Our fear doesn’t bother us, it’s the resistance to our fear that does. Everything that we are scared of losing is going to have to be taken away from us to make room for who we really are. The universe takes from us everything that we are scared we are going to lose to show us that we are enough without it. If we have to justify why we are keeping something, we have to let go of it.”

In addition to the the full interview with Kyle Cease and Lewis Howes above, below are our favorite highlights and takeaways:

  • When we think that when something happens we’ll be happy, we’re actually saying that we are in lack without that thing. (11:44)
  • We can’t see how much money we’re losing by staying in a job we hate. (20:20)
  • Whenever we’re scared to let go of something, the only reason is because our mind can measure what we will lose yet cannot see what we will gain. (22:29)
  • The universe takes from us everything that we are scared we are going to lose to show us that we are enough without it. (30:22)
  • No one has ever broken our heart but they have broken our expectations. By breaking our expectations, they helped us to become closer to our heart. (33:36)
  • Disconnect from the collective consciousness of the victim mentality of the world. (39:08)
  • If we have to justify why we are keeping something, we have to let go of it. (45:47)
  • We pick and choose our signs sometimes to justify why we aren’t leaping. (1:04:59)
  • Being lost makes space for new innovation. (1:09:55)
  • When we’re free, we’ll have clarity. (1:10:26)

Lastly, let’s ask ourselves, “What lessons can we learn from our lows? What’s trying to emerge from what we fear of letting go? Feel free to mention and tag us on social. We would love to hear your answers!

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7 Days of Wisdom (Episode 23)

7 Days of Wisdom is an original weekly video series presented by A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group and hosted by Aquaus Kelley. Our mission is to foster growth and create a community of success and significance. Through sharing meaningful advice, knowledge, and insight gathered throughout our daily experiences, we aim to empower, encourage, and inspire our community to achieve their most passionate aspirations.

In This Weeks Episode We Discuss:

  1. Protecting Our Energy (0:57)
  2. Asset vs Liability (4:48)
  3. Busy vs Productive (9:22)
  4. Quotes of The Week (25:49)

This Weeks Resources Include:

  1. Rita Pierson: Every Kid Needs a Champion
  2. Entrepreneurship + Innovation: Troy Carter

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

Entrepreneurship + Innovation: Troy Carter

We originally came across the amazing work of Chris Denson and his podcast, “Innovation Crush” through our work with Behind The Hustle. Chris has interviewed the creator of Behind The Hustle, Kenny Mac on his Tastemakers and Influence episode as well as our guy Anthony Demby of HumbleRIOT on his Consciousness of Cool episode. This time around, Chris makes time to sit down with one of our favorite movers and shakers in the entertainment and technology space. He happens to go by the name of Troy Carter.

As the founder of Atom Factory, Troy has an A-1 resume. Not only was he responsible for managing Lady Gaga throughout the height of her career. He is also an investor in superstar companies such as Spotify, Warby Parker, and Uber just to name a few. In this episode of Innovation Crush, Chris chats with Troy about the importance of using our common sense, being tough, opening doors, and caring about the consumer.

Here are 5 tips we learned from Troy Carter on entrepreneurship and innovation:

1. Use Common Sense: 

When Troy was asked what he looks for in regards to potential business opportunities, he mentions, “First and foremost, I’m a consumer. I ask myself, would I listen to this? Would I understand why people would want to listen to this? Would I buy this? Would I understand why people would want to buy this? I didn’t go to business school or anything like that. My analytics is just through common sense. I can listen to an idea and break it down to it’s simplest form. From there, it’s just a matter of whether or not I would write a check.”

2. Be Tough 

“You have to be a tough founder in order to challenge and compete with incumbents” says Troy. “We look for leaders with tenacity, wherewithal, and strong teams. No one is born an entrepreneur. It’s something that we develop over a period of time. Our grit is a result of the difficult experiences we deal with in our daily lives. This toughens up our muscles in both our stomach and spirit to help us get through the tough times.”

3. Open Doors

Troy mentions, “It’s important for me to create a pathway toward success for kids who come from where I come from. It was people like Russell Simmons, Reginald Lewis, and Puff who I modeled myself after. I looked at them and told myself that if they can do it, I can do it. They all helped to pave the way for me. In return, I’m just looking to blast open the door for 100’s of thousands of kids.”

“I was recently told that some investors didn’t invest in our fund because they thought that we were only going to focus on minority founders” says Troy. “This blew my mind and caused me to ask myself, who said a black guy can’t build a billion-dollar company? Based off of this conversation solely, now I feel obligated to open up doors and give minority entrepreneurs a chance. There are multi-billion dollar opportunities out there. Lets find them and lets get it!”

4. Care About The Consumer

“If you’re still building your business around carbonated beverages, you are in trouble” says Troy. “It’s no coincidence that the soda category started to erode when the information age hit. When people can read and see a direct correlation between health issues and ingredients, they are going to make smarter decisions. As a result, they will eventually gravitate toward the products and services that are in their best interest.”

5. Judge People By Their Intent

When Troy asked the CEO of Sony Music, Doug Morris how he handles executive talent, Doug told Troy, “Judge people by their intent. When people make a mistake, look at their intent in that decision. If it was intended to be beneficial to the company, let them make that mistake and learn from that mistake as long as it wasn’t malicious.”

What does innovation mean to Troy Carter?

“It means living around the corner. Be there before everyone else gets there. See what happens before everyone else sees it.” – Troy Carter

Thanks to Chris Denson, this article also appears as a guest post in Inc.com as the “5 Uncommon Skills Every Entrepreneur Needs to Win Big.”

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(Uh • Kway • Us) Aquaus Kelley is a forward-thinking Brand Strategist, Educator, and Music Publisher. As the Founder of A Lovers Ambition Lifestyle Group, he specializes in identifying talent and creating opportunities for brand development, exposure, and growth. Aquaus has worked with companies and organizations such as Cornerstone Agency, City Year Miami, Universal Music Group, and W Hotels. He is extremely passionate about helping companies adapt to culture and building value between brands and their consumers centered around love. His ultimate mission is to use his influence to project positivity across the globe and invest in the collective future of society through the arts, education, entertainment, and leadership.

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